Upgrade Your Vocabulary: Stop Using the Word Can’t
What we say matters. Even the things we say unconsciously or flippantly. Words both express a belief we hold deeply and determine the path we will follow. What we hear ourselves say over and over becomes our mantra, which becomes our reality.
So when we say we can’t do something, well, we’re right!
When was the last time someone you admire used the word can’t? The people I respect don’t let their limiting beliefs, or anyone else’s, stop them from reaching their goals. They see an obstacle and are encouraged to find another way or use the barrier to their advantage. They don’t have time for can’t because they are busy figuring out a way that they can.
On the other hand, we all know a person who spends more time and energy on coming up with excuses than it would take to find a solution.
You can move past the things that are holding you back. It may take you out of your comfort zone. You may have to take a risk or change some heavily ingrained habits. You may have to get creative. You are going to have to leave the conventional path and make some waves. This may be uncomfortable. Or, you may simply need to ask for help.
I just read an article about a man whose car broke down on the day before starting a new job. He walked 20 miles through the night to make it to work on time. Sure, he could have called in with an excuse, but he didn’t. He did what it took to get to work on time. His boss, after hearing about his efforts, rewarded him with a pay raise on his first day.
The movie The Pursuit of Happyness starring Will Smith comes to mind. In it, the main character is faced with nearly every obstacle you can think of. Yet he never let these things stop him from upgrading his life from homeless to multi-millionaire. He consistently did what it took to succeed. Against all the odds he rose above other highly qualified individuals who did not have nearly the challenges.
Both of these guys could have quit. Who would have blamed them? With all of the challenges stacked against them, they could have settled for a hard time story. But they didn’t. They didn’t let their own limiting beliefs or anyone else’s stop them from succeeding. They didn’t say can’t.
What is stopping you from living the life of your dreams? What is your biggest obstacle? Is it merely the word can’t?
The first step in quieting limiting beliefs is to focus on all of the things that you can do or can control instead of the things that are out of your control. At first, it might be helpful to sit down and write out all of the things you can do about the situation. List all of your options, even the ones that aren’t attractive or don’t seem possible. Then ask yourself why they aren’t possible. You may discover that the impossible is possible after all.
Next, upgrade your vocabulary. Stop yourself when you get to can’t. The difference between getting it done and not even trying is in your attitude, which starts with what you tell yourself. Instead of immediately saying you can’t, focus on the ways that you can. Don’t spend your energy making excuses.
Upgrading your vocabulary is the key to living up to your potential. While everyone else is wallowing in self-pity and holding themselves back from living their best life, you now have the magic feather that will put you on the fast track to success.
Dona Winger is a certified Integrative Nutrition Health Coach (INHC), blogger, and mom empowering busy people to reconnect with the healthy, happy person within in order to help them feel beautiful, confident, and excited about life again. She is passionate about inner wellness, simple nutrition, positive mindset, mindful choices, and epic gratitude.