When thinking about what to write about this week, I kept coming across the words ‘You are enough‘ and the thinking behind it that a lot of us feel like we aren’t enough, so I thought it was a good sign to write about this.
A lot of us have thoughts like I’m not good enough, I’m not thin enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not brave enough; enter any word you like: I’m not …… enough.
But where is this thought coming from? It’s usually something we heard when we were younger and our brain grabbed onto that thought and made it its reality. I can certainly tell you that my brain did exactly the same thing.
When I was around 15 years old, the other pupils (both girls and boys) started saying to me that my hips way too wide and indicated I was fat. The thing with the brain is, if you tell it things over and over again it starts to believe it. So I started to believe it and developed some very unhealthy eating habits. Well, they weren’t so much habits as stopping to eat completely. I kept myself at 50kg (to be fair I tried to keep my weight around 48/49kg) and the only way for me to do that was to stop eating.
Looking back at this behaviour now it is making me sad. What I did to my own body, just because other people were saying things. But the underlying issue was that I didn’t think I was enough. I had self-esteem issues and believed what the others were saying.
Fast forward 20 years and luckily I got over the eating issue as well as the self-esteem issue. There are still days where I think I’m not enough, but we all have those days sometimes.
We are not those things these people have told us we are. Do you want to hold on to a lie that someone has told you when you were younger?
Don’t let yourself hold back by what other people may have said about you. Let that go, embrace your past and get past any of this. You can do whatever you want to do! Be inspired! Live your dreams! Believe in yourself! You get to decide your life!
I want you to take action and reclaim your life. Now!
- Write yourself a letter in words of kindness. Tell the lie that is in your head how you are not those things. Tell it what you have achieved. Write whatever comes to mind to make you feel better. This is your motivational letter to yourself. Whenever you feel like the lie is coming up again in your mind, read the letter and read why this is just a lie and not your truth!
- Put up reminders everywhere that say ‘I am enough‘. And when I say everywhere, I mean it. Put it on post-it notes and put them around the house. Have screensavers on your laptop that say these words, add reminders to your calendar that pop up (this is a good one for when you know in advance you are going to be stressed/not feeling worthy and then have it pop up at the right time). Put it in your car, your workspace, everywhere. See what difference it makes.
Remember: You are worthy, loved and enough as you are in this moment! You are enough!
Remember this as you go through your day. You are enough!